Sometimes in the process of becoming ourselves we attract all sorts of people, but the relationships that tend to define us are the ones in which our partner’s planets are opposing our own. In these situations the partnership becomes a mirroring game, whereby you begin to understand the good things and the unpleasant things you bring into the relationship by projecting these onto your partner (because without the partner’s opposing solar energy, these aspects of our Shadow selves remain mostly dormant and unconscious).
For example, you find it very uncomfortable to speak out and say what you mean but you deeply desire you could change that about yourself; one day at a party your partner is confronted with the same situation, being given a slot to make a statement in front of a group of people but somehow failing at it, leaving behind a trail of incoherent half-formed ramblings; you then becoming angry on him/her by not doing precisely what you find so difficult in doing yourself; this ‘something’ frustrates you, and in ‘mirroring’ you, your partner shows you exactly the unconscious aspect of yourself that you desire to change; by acting in this acting in this way, he/she provokes your inner doubt to rise to the surface, and challenges you to make peace with your shadow in one way or another.
This is one example in many: maybe you hate spend-thrifty people but catch yourself holding on to your money more than you’d like; or maybe you cannot stand selfish go-getters but find that in work situations perhaps you sometimes behave in this manner. You can either deny this is happening to you and ignore it, or accept that you are doing such things too and integrate them into your personality which helps you in the long-run to release nervous energy and become more fluid in expressing your wants and needs in reality, thereby creating a better life for yourself.
There can be a fantastical awareness gained from these relational episodes and when couples with these oppositions have an inborn willingness to learn and truly love each other and see beyond ‘the blame game’, they benefit immensely from this mirroring in their spiritual growth. In a different scenario, the lesson is not integrated, the consciousness does not gain from the unconscious insight and bitterness and resentment are built in time, which will unfortunately lead to the imminent dissolution of the relationship or a life-long feeling of being trapped in an intimate situation.
As oppposites attract they generate a lot of energy when coming together. Used well-enough this mutual energy can push two people to grow beyond their dreams, but when used badly, it can lead them to self-destruction.
Here are blow-by-blow short descriptions of the 6 pairs of astrological magnets 🙂
I. Leo and Aquarius/Fire and Air: Individual will-power and Group-think
Relationship Analogy: the king and his courtiers, the entertainer and his public, the leader and his team.
II. Virgo and Pisces/Earth and Water: Social Service and Spiritual Creation
Relationship Analogy: the nurse and the patient, the editor and the writer, the lady and the chambermaid.
III. Taurus and Scorpio/Earth and Water: Material Resources and Emotional Transformation
Relationship Analogy: the farmer and forces of nature, the banker and the hijacker, the rockstar and the muse.
IV. Aries and Libra/Fire and Air: Solo Action and Relational Balance
Relationship Analogy: the photographer and the model, the poet and the body-builder, the activist and the politician.
V. Saggitarius and Gemini/Fire and Air Energy: Expansive Wisdom and Mental Fun
Relationship Analogy: the teacher and the pupil, the director and the actress, the explorer and the homebody.
VI. Capricorn and Cancer/Earth and Water Energy: Material Legacy and Homely Nurturing
Relationship Analogy: the breadwinner and the primary caregiver/the father and the mother, the manager and the secretary, the painter and the museum curator.
EDIT: Sorry crew, for the heteronormative view this post is taking. I’m speaking and representing mostly from my own heterosexual perspective but the astrological placements work in similar ways in same-sex couples.
With universal love,